Characteristics men love in women

Characteristics men love in women

Two Kinds Of Women - Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

Author: Hendrika Van Aardt

There are two kinds of women. There are women men love and women men leave. Now the question is which one you are. Well, which ever one you are, there is hope for you. There are ways you can adjust your life and behavior to become a woman men love and not a woman men leave.

If you want to become a woman your man will love and not leave the first think you have to do is find out what he needs from you. Once you know this you can make sure you meet his needs. If your man gets what he needs from the relationship, he is far less likely to take off. You will be surprised how often this simple principle is ignored. I think it is because many women think meeting their man's needs mean they have to be completely subservient and of course she does not want to do this.

Luckily, this is totally wrong. No man with a healthy self-esteem wants to use a woman as a doormat. If he wants that, there is something wrong and you should not be in a relationship with him then, in any case. If a man is secure in himself, he will want a woman with a mind of her own, but he also wants her to be his best friend and his biggest fan!

Do not make the mistake to think that if you give your man all the sex he needs and if you dress up in sexy lingerie you are meeting his needs! Well, that is also not true. If sex is all a man wants from you, you had better get yourself another man. A man with more depth will need more than that from you. No one denies that sex is an important part of a relationship, but if it is all your relationship is built on, it will fail at some point.

For a long term healthy relationship you have to build it on more than only physical intimacy. When you are young you do not want to believe it, but as you get older sex gets more difficult for many reasons and then there has to be something else in your relationship. So, you must work on the other factors of your relationship a swell. You do not want to be left with nothing to take intimacy's place!

The tragic things is that it is mostly the women who try the hardest to be what their man wants from them, that are the women men ends up leaving. All the love, appreciation he needs has to be real. If he can detect that you do not really admire him and desire him it is no good pretending you are. Any man will bore very quickly from such a woman and leave her once the novelty has worn off. Your man wants a real woman with a character of her own.

The message is that you have a choice. You now know the difference between women men love and women men leave. It is up to you to make the choice. This does not mean you have to give up your own personality it only means you have to be yourself while you try and understand his needs. You decide whether you are a woman men will love or a woman, men will leave.

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Men and Intimacy: 5 Myths About Men, Love and Intimacy

Author: Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.

When it comes to love, men often get a bad rap.

"You only hear about the guys who are abusive or cheat, but how about the tons of men who are faithful and kind?" ~John

"I've been married for over twenty years. I know I'm not perfect, but I can honestly say that I do my best to be a good husband…I care about what my wife thinks of me as a husband and father." ~Hale

"It scares me to admit this, but I'd be totally lost without my wife. She's my best friend and she tells me that I'm hers. Making her happy is everything to me..." ~Luis

These are some of the messages several men shared with me while discussing their thoughts about intimacy, their partners and spouses. Before long, a theme arose: What especially bothered these men were the rampant myths about men and love.

Men and Intimacy:

Myth 1: Men do not value emotional connection.

Myth 2: Men do not care about their partners'/spouses' feelings.

Myth 3: Men only want sex (rather than emotional connection).

Myth 4: Men are controlling and tell women what to do (and therefore prefer passive women).

Myth 5: Men would rather spend time with their guy friends than their wives/girlfriends.

Let's take a closer look at the first myth, the one that claims that men do not value emotional closeness. This myth arises out of the difficulty some men have with emotions: in particular, talking about and sharing their feelings. This reality is rooted in the way in which many men are socialized. Emotional self-expression is not considered an important and useful trait for many men.

Of particular importance is the way in which fathers (and other male mentors) act as role-models for their sons. While many fathers are becoming more comfortable with their sons' emotional lives, some fathers continue to hold the expectation that once their male child hits a certain age, this emotionality will give way to stoic control.

Why are feelings difficult for men?

Feelings of vulnerability (tenderness, sadness, fear, feeling "less than," embarrassment and shame) conflict with the ideal of masculinity—central to this ideal is the trait of masculine strength. Men value power and in the arena of love, power and strength equate to being able to take care of your loved ones. As the requirements of relationships change and men are asked to be more emotionally available, the guiding questions for many men are:

How can masculinity and vulnerability exist side by side?

How can I be tender while still seen as strong?

Unfortunately, the mentality that emotional vulnerability equals weakness is alive and well in many cultures and held by too many men. This deep-seated attitude is often triggered in relationships that require and demand greater intimacy. Faced with the challenges of intimacy, men may shut down and withdraw, rather than allow themselves to feel confused and emotionally impotent.

But men still value connection!

Difficulty sharing emotions does not necessarily mean that emotional connection isn't important to men. Think of it this way: You can deeply enjoy music and yet not know how to play an instrument. How men go about creating connection has less to do with emotional sharing and more to do with actions that validate their masculine identity--providing for their loved ones, tangential giving that leads to concrete results.

As Roger recently said:

"My wife didn't like the color of our bedroom and when she was out with her sister, I painted the entire room her favorite color. I couldn't wait to see her reaction. When she got home she gave me this big hug and I felt like a million bucks…"

In other words, Roger felt emotionally connected to his wife. He experienced intimacy through doing for his wife, rather than emotional expression.

The important point to remember is that "myth" does not equate to "fact." No matter how ingrained a preconceived notion might be in a society, we are all free-thinking individuals who can choose to look beneath the surface and appreciate our partners for what they have to offer and the unique way in which they try to offer it...regardless of what prevailing assumptions about gender might tell us.

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Richard Nicastro, Ph.D. is a relationship and intimacy coach with over fifteen years experience helping individuals and couples live more fulfilling lives. Dr. Nicastro's relationship advice has appeared on television, radio and in national magazines.