Always remember that your partner can't read your mind. I think that one of the worst relationship's mistakes is that we assume that our partner can read our mind. We expect them to do that and that's not fair.
There are several good reasons why it is so important to recognize this problem and to nip it in the bud. First off, it creates a great deal of grief and inner damage for yourself. You carry around a ton of frustration that has little, if anything, to do with you. You are mad, frustrated, bothered about something. You are the only one who knows about it. If that isn't self-induced stress, what is?
Moreover, it's not really fair to your partner. Here you are steaming mad about something, and you don't even give your partner the courtesy of telling them what is bugging you . You are probably coming across as really irritated, but they don't even know what it is really all about. You are demanding that they read your mind. What chance do they have? How can they explain themself, much less do anything about it?
When something is bothering you, it's usually best to let your partner know about it. Pick a time when neither of you are in defensive moods. (I talked about moods in a previous post- Here is the link back to that post). Bring up the issue gently and respectfully and see what happens. In most cases, it seems logical that your chances of a favorable outcome are far better than if you rely on your partner reading your mind. Avoid the self-destructive thought that your partner knows what you need. We all know what the word "assume" does- It makes an ass out of you and me
PS:: To the ladies reading this, please always realize that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We over analyze ladies and men are clueless to that
For more info- Check out my main page at www.winningatlove.com
Enjoy :-)
Check out our home page for many other inspirational quotes :-)
Link to home page here
No comments:
Post a Comment